Tuesday, 22 August 2017
Tinubu A Lion In Politics But A Lamb In Marriage by Akeem Abdul
What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life — To strengthen each other in all labour, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of sorrow and joy? This is the story of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu and Oluremi Tinubu. To them, the bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds — they mature slowly and to keep the fire burning brightly there's one easy rule: Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart to make a breathing room. Good fire, good marriage, and same purpose, same rule.
Their togetherness is amazing, religion that brings war into the nation brought them peace, politics that brings separation between families unites them, rumours that scatter family serves as a source of strength to them.
Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads; hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years and a long marriage are two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time.
Asiwaju a Lion in politics but a lamb in marriage, a master of deliberation but a partner at home, a man of testimony, a man of good report, fear of God and the respecter of vow, these are qualities that makes Oluremi finds no Asiwaju in others. Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu sees Oluremi as an entity, a mother, sister, friend, partner, wife and confidant. In marriage, all tittles are drop, he is simply Bola and this gives meaning and makes their 30 years togetherness less ambiguous and full of meaning. Their wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. Also, it is the calibration of two good forgivers who believes that you can never be happily married to another until you get a divorce from yourself.
In a time when nothing is more certain than change, the commitment of two people to one another has become difficult and rare. Yet, by its scarcity, the beauty and value of this exchange have only been enhanced. It’s absolutely true that people can see beyond doubt the commitment of Asiwaju to his wife. A man that wants his wife to be all that he is even beyond is undoubtedly a man that is committed to the course that he believes in.
Asiwaju, being an incredible husband did not come short of his role as a father. To the children, he is a father of all seasons; worthy of emulation and outstanding disciplinarian. Accommodating, generous and firm in his decision and can do all things within the confines of the law to give good life to his family.
The success of their marriage does not base on the magical torch of Asiwaju only. It was said that a good husband make a good wife. An object in possession seldom retains the same charm that it had in pursuit. Madam Oluremi Tinubu came from a good family background and adore herself with self-discipline brings the best out of her and which in returns contributed immensely to the success of her matrimony. A wife that settles every matter relating to her husband on her kneels with God is expected not to celebrate three score weeding anniversary. To Oluremi, marriage is a book of which the first chapter is written in poetry and the remaining chapters in prose. As long as a woman has an understanding of life, she must understand that for her to be relevant in her home, she must start acting else she will be shadow of her home. To keep your marriage brimming, with love in the loving cup, admit you’re wrong and be quite when you are right.
Madam Oluremi Tinubu, a good mother and a loving wife and excellent listener and a good homemaker. A woman of substance and modesty to her, her marriage to Asiwaju is a destiny fulfilled.
What more shall we now say, than to congratulates Asiwaju and his beautiful wife happy weeding anniversary and to wish them many more years to conquer with love and unity of purpose. An old adage says a dress that zips up the back will bring a husband and wife together.